My 70th birthday was a nonevent. For my 50th, 16 of my girlfriends and I celebrated with a weekend away in a beautiful B&B in the mountains. We had a ball. 20 years later, 12 of my girlfriends came away with me for a long weekend in a big house at the beach. My 70th birthday weekend still hasn’t happened. Bloody Covid. Your story is not unusual. People like Jay are hard to put up with 24/7.